CUNNILINGUS: HOW TO TALK ABOUT IT WHEN YOU ARE IN A RELATIONSHIP?

To him, to her, to all who want it: because learning to please women with cunnilingus, it can always serve.

Many people like cunnilingus. Many people do not like it. Others have never come across someone who has made the thing interesting. If you are in this category and you want people who venture between your legs to provide you with quality cunnilingus, you will have to play it fine. You’ve been licking sex for years now like a dog who drinks tap water, so let’s be realistic, bet on the fact that ” this time, maybe it’s the right one” is not the best way to maximize your chances, you’ll need to be pedagogical, yes, we know, after spending your weekend volunteering to teach the basics of feminism to your cousins, you do not you have more strength, but as Officer Lowe said in Titanic: ” We must continue to search, we must continue! ” 

Take the subject seriously
A priori, whatever your relationship (serious or plan ass ), your partner wants to do well and is quite capable of learning.In the case where this person, not daring to confess that she fears the smell of the amuse-bouche, argues that ” it’s not his thing“She does not even deserve to be invited to our table, but here we are not talking to her lover in the same way as to a conquest encountered in the dry toilets of a festival. In both cases, the subject deserves to be taken seriously. How often did you find your legs apart to gouge a few indications without tail or head hoping that he/she would miraculously glue all the pieces of the puzzle? Too many times Your crotch deserves an effective strategy before you can stick to your inexperienced and pretentious language First, it is never useless to remind your partner that sexual intercourse request consent. So you will appreciate that if he/she plans to make you cunnilingus, he/she asks for permission (stop considering any person starting as a knight to kiss). If you are a couple for a long time, the subject may be more delicate because you will have to admit that it’s been ages that you pretend to appreciate its mediocre attempts. But if you do not want to find yourself at forty to simulate autopilot, better late than never. In the case of a recent partner, the best is to take advantage of an intimate and comfortable situation to begin your teaching. After a first time (failure), to settle face to face in a bed is conducive to the confidence. You can then ask “Do you want me to explain what I like? “Unless he’s damned stuffy, he/she should accept.

Know yourself
A good girl of your time, you made the first selection at the entrance of your room: only people who have already acquired the notion of taste and color and who know that all women are different. The Problem, we never put our own language on our sex to train. So difficult to guide, especially if no one has ever managed to lead you to orgasm this way. A better strategy: take the best of what you’ve known – for example, large circular motions then localized on the clitoris with the simultaneous introduction of the fingers – and try to make him repeat the pattern by making the experiment last. Attention, the person in front (especially if it is male) will have trouble recording too many instructions. Think investor pitch – 10 slides / 20 minutes / font 30. Select the information, prioritize them and especially do not multiply them. 

What is well conceived is clearly stated
If you lack the vocabulary, repeat your intervention and use keywords. The metaphor of the brush is for example very effective: his tongue is a brush with which he or she comes to stroke, brush, brush (ouch) your sex. You can make more or less flat areas depending on the pressure you exert on your brush and even pointillism. All on the same canvas. It’s up to you to explain in what order you like the masterpiece to be realized. In the same way that it takes time to learn to cunnilingus, it takes time to perform, at least fifteen minutes in general. Be clear on this point. Finally, if cunnilingus is not obliged to lead you to orgasm to be appreciated, stop before you asked for it remains very badly raised. When it’s good, we stay where we are without flinching, we continue until further notice and we give ourselves the trouble. Here, we paint The Origin of the World, not a Ravensburger Art Number.