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The stages through which any relationship of courtship passes

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IF YOU HAVE A BOYFRIEND OR HAVE EVER HAD, SURELY YOU HAVE NOTICED THAT YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS GOING THROUGH DIFFERENT STAGES. IT’S NORMAL IN ALL RELATIONSHIPS!

Having a boyfriend is great and it’s a unique experience, but not all romances are like love movies where old people die together. There are times when your boyfriend and you fight all the time and for any little thing and there are times when they do not fight for anything in the world and it seems the perfect relationship. You have realized?


Although all couples are different, the majority goes through 6 stages that I will explain. Remember that each relationship is unique, so you and your boyfriend do not go through the same thing as your BFF and his lover.

Before you start some kind of relationship, the first thing that happens is the crush. You see someone for the first time and you feel butterflies in your stomach and you think cupito has just stuck one of his arrows in his heart. In reality, it is not ” love at first sight “, because love is something that is constantly being built, it is ” attraction at first sight “, well they say that love is born from the eyes.

Once there were flirting, talks, exits or a previous relationship (such as being acquaintances or friends), then the moment comes when they begin to walk. This does not happen magically. It is a mutual agreement and a decision that both take to want to engage and have a relationship.

Now, this is what happens. (The time periods vary in each person and relationship).

Step 1. Enamoramiento. It goes from month 1 to 3 months.

We have always heard that the first months are the most father and the most romantic part of the relationship, where everything is rosy and happiness is maximum. It is true! Your relationship is very new, there is a lot ofattraction among you and in automatic you see all the good things about your lover and let go of the negative aspects.

During this stage, endorphins invade the brain and we have super-intense sensations. (That’s why we believe that we already love him after a month). Normally they want to be together all the time (literally everything), to do everything together and there are almost no fights because one seeks to please the other or because you are simply afraid that it will affect your relationship.

Stage 2: Knowledge. It goes from month 3 to 6 months.

In this stage, you begin to know more about your gallant. They talk about hoooooooras in the early hours and things get a bit cornier. Normally here the nicknames come out and there may also be some other very small discussion because they are realizing what they like and what they do not.

Stage 3: Coupling. It goes from 6 months to 1 year and a half.

This stage is the most difficult but also the most beautiful.

This is when the fights start. Be careful, there must be no fights in all relationships, but they are very common because they begin to know each other better and adapt to each other. Many couples do not pass this stage because it is a constant litigation streak and also because to fit in, there are things that you will have to give in to and there are things in which you will have to give it up; and many times we are not willing to compromise.


The key to overcoming this stage is communication. Speak everything you feel and tell things clear and direct. Only in this way will they be able to get to know each other in-depth and they will begin to fit together like a good team!

Stage 4: Stability. From 1 year, up to 2 and a half years.

Yeeeei, you just survived a difficult stage of pure fights, but I have good news for you. They finished! Ok, they did not end completely, but at this stage, the problems are solved by talking and no longer give them the same importance as before. This stage is super nice because it is when you really feel happy and the thing is a little more serious. You will realize that they are super connected and that they no longer ask what plan they are for because they already know that movies in your house are the perfect plan. Excellent team!

Stage 5: Reaffirmation. (It can be felt from the second year and its duration varies).

This is another stage not so cool that they go through. It is when they begin to compare themselves with other couples and questions about their future come to your head. Be careful because this is where doubts about infidelities could arise (either from him to you or from you to him) and you could come to question your love.

It is important that if you do not feel safe, do not stay with someone because of the habit or because “it’s your boyfriend of years”, but if both are committed and they want the relationship, this stage can happen very quickly and reaffirm their love.

Stage 6: Love

I am not saying that it is up to this stage where you can feel love, but here you can proudly put that title. If they went through all the previous stages, they are likely to last much longer. This is when plans and future visions begin to look more real. They know each other perfectly, they have a language of gestures and signs that only you two understand, thousands and millions of local jokes and they are already enjoyed 100%. In this stage, you feel again a little like in stage 1, where you are happy, full and you would not change it for anything in the world.

If you are already of age, this is where you could commit yourself.

Remember that a relationship is DOS and it is a job that has to be done day by day. If there is a problem, solve it, if something you do not like, say it, if you can improve something, do it.

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30 Questions to ask a girlfriend you like

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You have flashed on a girl on Tinder, and now you have managed to invite her to have a drink on the terrace of a cafe. Congratulations! You have probably done the hard part. That is to attract her attention and make it interested. Now it’s time to show her that you are worth the trouble of her attention and find plenty of conversation.

QUESTIONS TO AVOID WHITES DURING A DATING

The best way to seduce a woman is to listen to her and show her that you are interested in her life. For that, you’ll have to ask her a lot of questions and listen carefully to her answers. This is the best way to seduce a woman you like.

What Questions to ask a girlfriend

  • 1. What is important to you in a relationship?
  • 2. What have you done in your life but will never do?
  • 3. Who is your best friend?
  • 4. What was the best gift you got?
  • 5. What do you like most about this city?
  • 6. What kind of guy do you like?
  • 7. What is your biggest dream?
  • 8. Where would you like to go on a trip?
  • 9. What is your biggest fear?
  • 10. What do you hate most at school?
  • 11. What does a romantic guy look like?
  • 12. With which personality would you like to exchange your life?
  • 13. Would you like to have a dog or a cat?
  • 14. What is your favorite movie?
  • 15. What’s the craziest thing you’ve done for someone?
  • 16. Are you looking for a long or short relationship?
  • 17. Why do you use Tinder to meet men?
  • 18. Do you watch a lot of TV?
  • 19. Are you close to your family?
  • 20. What would you choose if you could choose any profession?
  • 21. What would you do if you were rich?
  • 22. What makes you happy?
  • 23. Have you ever been in love?
  • 24. When was the last time you cried in front of someone?
  • 25. Would you like to be known? What kind of celebrity would you be?
  • 26. What is your favorite music?
  • 27. Show me the picture you like best of you?
  • 28. What did you think when you saw my picture on the dating site?
  • 29. What are you thinking about right now?
  • 30. What are you going to do right after this appointment?

This long list is just a small list of conversation topics to get you started on the right foot.

HOW TO USE THESE QUESTIONS?

Do not ask these questions one after the other. Neither you nor she is robots. Choose the questions that best fit your type of meeting. You will not ask the same question if it’s the first time, or if you’ve been together for several days.

The most important thing is to listen carefully to her answers and to bounce on them. If she tells you that she likes men who surprise her, ask her for more details. You can re-use this info later to surprise you.

Good luck!

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6 Very Important Reasons You Never Pretend Orgasm

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Have sex just to please each other? And still, make the guy feel like the good guy? Friend, you deserve more!

‘Ah, who never pretended to orgasm, right?’ In the ideal world, this phrase should not be common in conversations between friends – after all, everyone deserves such pleasurable sex that makes your legs wobble. But unfortunately, this is not the reality of basically all women.

According to a survey of 11,000 people, by Sexlog in partnership with the YSOS app, networks for those who search for threesome and swing, 72% of women heard have feigned an orgasm. Within this percentage, the reasons are divided: 45% pretended because they could not get there during sex, while 26% wanted the moment to end.

With these worrying numbers, it’s never too late to point out why faking orgasms during sex is such an extremely toxic attitude. The biggest loser is yourself, and the relationship that the couple is building also ends up damaged.

So on this Day of Orgasm (August 31) we talked to three sexologists and separated five aspects that show the negative sides of this kind of attitude.

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1. The relationship may not really be good.

As explained by Alyne Meirelles, director of the Brazilian Association of Sexual Health, Education and Therapy Professionals (ABRASEX), marital problems can hinder concentration at the time of sex and, consequently, lead to the pretense of orgasm.

“In these situations, it is common for both of us to fake an orgasm to end the sexual act right away and keep up the idea that it’s okay, that they have fulfilled their roles when they are actually making a mistake and missing out on the opportunity to talk and resolve. the problems together, ”emphasizes the expert.

With Alyne’s warning in mind, you have to look at the situation as a whole to understand what other problems may be linked to the constant attitude of feigning pleasure. As the sexologist also pointed out, the dialogue is always the first step to be taken. But if the effort to improve is not mutual and the situation is not resolved, it is okay to end cycles and perhaps seek a partner who cares about his orgasm as much as he cares about his.

2. Pleasure is healthy and you can’t forget it

Anyone who thinks that having an orgasm is solely and exclusively an intense sense of pleasure, completely forgets that getting there has many health benefits. As Sonia Eustquia da Fonseca, a clinical psychologist, psychoanalyst and sexologist, explains, the apex of arousal can relieve tension and pain, combat insomnia, make skin and hair look better, reduce stress, protect the heart, promote longevity. and even strengthen immunity.

“ During intercourse, blood flow and heart rate increase significantly, reaching climax – which is an orgasm. And the main characteristic of orgasm is a contraction followed by intense relaxation, able to relieve muscle tension, relaxing the whole body, ”points out the sexologist.

Sonia also clarifies that orgasm causes the body to release endorphins and oxytocins up to five times more than in normal situations. This gives relief from pain, such as menstrual cramps, during sex. This capacity for intense relaxation is one of the great strengths for women who have sex during their menstrual periods – but always with the concern of using condoms, huh?

In addition to the hormones mentioned above, Sonia recalls that orgasm also increases estrogen levels in women, which reduces the chances of having a heart problem. Regarding immunity, the sexologist explains that the levels of antibodies known as IgA, which are responsible for protection against infections, flu and colds, also increase during the peak of pleasure.

3. What about self-knowledge?

Pretending to orgasm may also be related to the fact that many women do not know which body parts are most pleasurable. And Alyne remembers why: “As a girl, women are discouraged from touching those lines that almost all of us have heard: Take your hand away; It is dirty; It’s ugly; Close your legs! ‘”.

But even with early repression, you can’t talk about sex without first encouraging masturbation. The touch of your own body is essential for you, the woman, to understand what you like and what is not hot for you. This requires working to put prejudice aside and explore their sexual regions.

There is no rule when it comes to feeling pleasure, especially to yourself. It’s worth undressing to see your body, putting a mirror between your legs so you can see exactly where you are touching and caress your own breasts. Because lubrication is essential for a good orgasm, it is important to work all parts of the vulva – from the outside, clitoris to penetration if you like and like it – to speed up and enjoy.

4. Turns into a horrible vicious cycle

When we do something many times in a row, it can end up being a habit and no different when it comes to faking an orgasm. As Cátia Damasceno, Sexuality Specialist on the ‘Well Resolved’ channel, emphasizes, this makes sex no longer a good time but an obligation and there is nothing worse than that. Therefore, she emphasizes that the first step is a sincere conversation, especially if the situation happens in a serious relationship.

5. About women pretending to orgasms and men finding themselves in bed

Several studies have shown that lesbian women tend to have more orgasms than heterosexual women. And what would be the reason for this? More dialogue, a greater concern for the partner’s pleasure and the awareness that penetration is not the center of everything are some of the reasons given by these studies. And the fake orgasm goes against it all.

The pleasure-time “playhouse” helps more and more men believe they are rocking the bed, which generates a chain reaction that harms all the women he will have sex with. We need to talk more about sex, because only then will our partners know when they are not pleasing – you and other women.

“ If you fake orgasm, you’re passing bad merchandise to your classmates – in case this person is just an affair and one night. The guy goes off thinking that he was devastated and will continue doing the same because he thinks it is working ”, summarizes Cátia Damasceno.

6. No more just pleasing each other

Often the silence and all the staging in bed is so that the other does not feel bad. But the question that doesn’t want to be silent is: why can’t you feel pleasure? Or even uncomfortable with something that should be tasty? No no and no!

“Sex is exchanged, it’s synergy, it’s skin on skin, eye to eye, it’s fantasy. Women are responsible for their pleasure and men for theirs, when together in an intimate relationship, both should seek to please each other, but also to be satisfied, ”emphasizes Alyne.

So don’t be quiet when you’re not liking something, and don’t be shy if you want to try something different. Having sex should also be a good time for you and not reaching orgasm should be a sporadic situation and not a rule.

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Discover why your partner gives you flowers without being a special day

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It’s nice when your partner surprises you with detail, but what is behind a gift without being a special date? Discover why your partner gives you a bouquet of flowers without motives.

Why does my boyfriend give me flowers?

That your partner surprises you with a bouquet of your favorite flowers is the cutest detail and more when it does without being a special date. Many women like to receive these kinds of surprises, even if we always say so, we are romantic and we can spend creating stories in our thoughts of how the most cheesy detail we would like to receive. But if we start thinking and turn the situation around, why do they give us flowers without any reason?

Why they want forgiveness: One of the reasons they give you flowers is because maybe they did something wrong and what they are looking for is that you be more docile when it comes to revealing what they did, so it will be much easier for them to I forgive you.

Honey: Because he loves you so much and wants to show you by buying your favorite flowers, this only shows that you have a boyfriend who pays attention to what you say since he remembers what flowers you like, and he is a romantic man who seeks to make you happy without Be a special day.

I didn’t know what to give you: Maybe he thought of making you a surprise, but usually men know what to give, so the first thing they choose is flowers, maybe they surprise you with a beautiful bouquet of flowers (even if it’s not your flowers preferred)

It doesn’t matter if your partner gives you flowers with any reason or not, but what you should keep in mind is to take care of these beautiful plants, place them in a vase and fill it with clean water, a curious fact is to add some sugar so that These can be kept alive longer.

If you want to have some detail with your partner, we tell you that you can also give flowers to your boyfriend, there are many flowers that are considered for men, also today you can find in different colors. Maybe the idea is not to give her a bouquet of flowers, but you can choose to buy plants like cacti and others that come in pots and much easier to keep alive.

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How to know that we have an orgasm?

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For all those who have already had fun (the pun was easy!) To have an orgasm, you know how sweet and pleasant it feels like no other.

All women are different – some have orgasms very quickly, in less than 5 minutes, while others need long and gentle preliminaries to be sufficiently in the mood and enjoy.

On the other hand, when a woman has an orgasm, she feels a pleasure so intense that her mind and her whole body are transported and this allows her to reach the fullest fullness.

That said, all this is rather vague, especially when we have never had an orgasm (or that we do not have every time we make love) and we would like a little more details to recognize the beginning of this wave of pleasure and better understand how to achieve orgasm more easily.

So if you’ve ever wondered what exactly happens when a woman is about to reach orgasm, here’s all that’s going on in a woman’s body when she’s about to enjoy:

THE SIGNS THAT A WOMAN STARTS TO BE EXCITED

When a woman starts to get excited, her heart starts beating faster and her breathing quickens. Many muscles are stretched all over his body. Her clitoris swells.

Her breasts are also a little swollen and her nipples become harder, bigger and point forward. It is the reflex erection of the nipple that can occur when one is cold or following sexual arousal. Having breasts that point when you make love is usually a very good sign and is perfectly normal!

Some women also have the face, the shot or the chest that starts to blush when they are excited.

All these signs can help you to detect that you are excited and that your body begins to prepare to enjoy.

WHEN ONE IS WET, IT IS THAT THE VAGINA IS LUBRICATED THANKS TO THE LOVE JUICE

Then, still under the effect of sexual arousal, the vagina begins to secrete a particular substance, very liquid and very transparent, called the love juice.

This is intended to lubricate the entrance and the walls of the vagina to promote penetration and movement of the penis. This natural lubrication is very important so that the sexual act is pleasant and that one can enjoy.

If you are very wet, this is still a good sign, and it is a priori that you are very excited and therefore in good shape to have an orgasm.

On the other hand, if you feel excited but you are very dry, do not worry, because the reciprocal is not always true: it is not because you are not wet that you are not excited because many factors can change the texture, color or even the smell of the cyprine (pill, menstrual cycle, diet, infection) besides the drop in estrogen levels during pregnancy, breastfeeding or menopause can also cause a lack of vaginal lubrication.

In this case, if you really want to make love, do not deprive yourself, and just use a lubricant that will make the foreplay and the sexual act itself much more enjoyable.

Even if natural lubrication is always preferred (since it is precisely natural and allows a priori to listen and make fun), use a lubricant should not interfere.

Indeed, it would be a bad idea to insist on having sex if you are not wet (because clearly, when it’s too dry, it hurts) and it would be a shame to deprive you of having sex. love because you feel like it but your vagina is not lubricated enough just because of one of the external parameters we mentioned above.

TO HAVE AN ORGASM, YOU HAVE TO LET GO

Because it seems logical, but it’s still important to remember: to have an orgasm, you must first make love (alone or with two, since it can also be fun alone).

It means not to be discouraged if you feel like it and feel mentally excited but our body has a hard time letting go. It is necessary to let go, relax and try to put his brain in a pause so that our body has time to feel all this excitement.

To summarize, if you want to have an orgasm, start by putting your anxieties aside, do not think about what you have to do next and let yourself go.

Try to fully feel each caress, every kiss and all that can happen in your body.

You will see that it is particularly pleasant and that even if we all like having an orgasm, we are very numerous to prefer the phase of preliminary and all that one can have between the two!

In addition, if you think too much, you will not live in the present moment, and you may have less pleasure. That would be a shame!

BLOOD FLOWS INTO THE PELVIC AREA

This is called pelvic engorgement, which increases with the approach of orgasm. It is this influx of blood in the vagina and vulva that will then release five to fifteen involuntary rhythmic contractions of the uterus or vagina during orgasm.

From the preliminaries, an excited woman has blood flow in her pelvic area which creates a very pleasant feeling of warmth at this place (you can see what I’m talking about!).

The lips are straightening and opening. Inside, the vagina lengthens and widens, always under the effect of this blood flow, to prepare for what will follow.

THE EXCITEMENT PHASE JUST BEFORE ORGASM

As the excitation phase continues, everything becomes even more dilated, wide and/or swollen and all the changes just enumerated are even more pronounced.

The only exception is the clitoris, which retracts when the orgasm approaches (usually just before) and its size decreases by 50%.

WHAT DO WE FEEL DURING ORGASM?

When a woman reaches orgasm, the heartbeat and breathing speed up, her whole body is arched, her skin blushes and intense contractions of the vagina, uterus and perineal muscles that can then spread throughout the body.

These intense contractions are of the order of one every two to three seconds. An average orgasm usually contains three to five contractions, and the most intense orgasms have between ten and fifteen. The female orgasm can vary from 10 to 60 seconds (while the male orgasm, meanwhile, varies from 6 to 10 seconds on average).

Just after these discharges of well-being that seem to invade the whole body, one feels filled and soothed. All the tension of the body is evacuated. We had an orgasm!

And if you want to sleep right after making love, it’s totally normal. As for men, the orgasm of women is accompanied by the production of oxytocin, one of the hormones of orgasm, and one of his many actions is to relax the body and make you want to sleep.

So if you feel like falling asleep after orgasm, especially, let yourself go: after all, there is nothing more pleasant than falling asleep in the arms of the loved one.

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12 things NOT TO DO during a first Date

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You have finally managed to get the first date and you really want to put the odds on your side for it to work?

Here are 12 things to avoid absolutely during a first date if you want to be able to have a second one …

1. DO NOT TALK AT ALL

If you are shy or impressed, you may not be able to speak …

However, it will be necessary to launch you and dare to articulate a few words, otherwise, you risk to miss this first meeting. That would be a shame…

2. TALK CONSTANTLY

Conversely, if you talk non-stop, and in particular that of you, your appointment may be wondering what he is doing there and want to shorten your date.

Try to ask as many questions as possible and talk about yourself, of course, but do not dwell too much on the details either.

3. TRANSFORM THIS FIRST APPOINTMENT INTO AN INTERROGATION

You are talkative, curious and you have read that the best way to seduce is to take an interest in the other.

Asking questions is a good idea, but do not make this appointment a real interrogation either, otherwise, your date may soon be uncomfortable.

4. TALK ABOUT YOUR EX SOUND

This is definitely THE subject not to be addressed during a first meeting … (or a second elsewhere).

5. ARRIVE 20 MINUTES LATE

It’s never very pleasant, and it may send him the message that you do not really want to see it.

6. CONSTANTLY CUT HIM OFF

It is very rude, and it has the gift of pushing the most reserved to close in their shell and to annoy all the others.

7. TALK ABOUT MARRIAGE OR BABY NAMES

Evoking your projects and goals is good. On the other hand, be careful not to scare him either because you want to go too quickly to work …

8. TOO MUCH DRINKING

Even if you are stressed, avoid drinking too much and stringing glasses of alcohol, it will not give you a very good image.

9. TOO MUCH

When we are not natural, it feels, and it does not inspire confidence. Be rather yourself, even if you are “too” shy, “too” talkative, “too” curious.

After all, if you really are like this, your potential partner will eventually realize it at one time or another!

10. SAY YOU STILL LIVE WITH YOUR PARENTS

Better to wait for some appointments to tell him.

11. SHOW HIM PICTURES OF HIS CAT

Or his dog. Or his guinea pig. Because unless he (or she) also has pets, it may not interest him much and let him think you do not have many other interests.

12. WEAR STAINED OR COMPLETELY WRINKLED CLOTHING

For a first date and as everywhere, the first impression counts a lot. Try to heal your outfit, it will only help you to seduce!

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